Dear Jack,
My boyfriend and I just celebrated two years and I still have not met his parents yet. Granted, his “home” is about 1,000 miles away but I figured by this time I would have met them. With the holidays around the corner I would think he would extend some sort of invite. Can you help, what’s going on here?
Hey Left Out Lisa,
First, make sure you have indicated you want to meet his family. It’s one of those awkward moments you may have, but you need to have it. Do it smoothly — when Thanksgiving is brought up say “I wouldn’t mind hanging out with your family in Nashville.” Play it cool. I reluctantly got back together with an ex of mine — and she made me promise that we would meet each other’s family after one month. That worked out really well (by really well I mean it was an epic failure — lasted one week).
Also factor in that his family may have other things going on. I come from a large family with siblings still in college, while older siblings are having children (twins!). Unfortunately, he may have dropped a couple spots in the family totem pole. So don’t immediately assume its a “you” problem.
I’d be floored if the girl I was dating said she wanted to come home and meet my family. Just don’t sound crazy while doing it and you’ve got this.
Hope this helps,
JL
