A Handwritten Note Speaks Volumes

I’ve always been a fan of sending handwritten notes. While I was growing up, my mother was (and still is) a master of the craft, so I like to think that some of the love for note writing was passed down through her genes. I guess it makes sense that I would feel at ease expressing myself with a quick note of gratitude to a friend or sending a few consoling words when someone close to me experiences a loss or difficulty in life.

For many, the mere thought of putting pen to paper for any reason is beyond daunting. I am on a mission to make the writing of personal correspondence easier and more approachable, so I’ve brought in , etiquette and modern manners expert, author, Huffington Post blogger, and founder of The Protocol School of Texas, for a little Q & A.

Q. In your expert opinion, why is writing a personal note more meaningful than the text or email that has become so mainstream?

A. The reason a personal note is more meaningful than a text or email is because “the perfect little note” has all kinds of specific thought put into it. Everything from the carefully selected writing paper, the beautiful ink, the thoughtfully crafted words, the often hard work that goes into legible handwriting, the pretty envelope and the decorative stamp make a huge impact on the receiver. That said, I am not opposed to an email when the situation warrants. Certainly, for a business lunch, or a quick “drop in” to say hello. A text is also a great way to let someone know, “I’m thinking about you this very moment in time.” A quick email or text can brighten someone’s day, but the handwritten note says, “I love you,” “I care,” “I’m sorry,” and “You are worth the effort I put into this note.”

Q. Can you offer a few tips for writing the most impactful person notes? I find that many people I know don’t write personal notes as they claim they don’t know how to begin or what to say.

A. Writing a note is as simple as speaking from the heart. When you are genuinely expressing your feelings, the other person isn’t judging your words. Start out by saying how much you enjoy the gift (name it by name if it’s a thank you for a gift) or how much you miss seeing the other person (if it’s a note just to say hello). The words vary depending on the nature of the note, but basically, use their name, tell them how you are feeling and show appreciation for their effort and value in your life, express an intention to see them soon, and close with a thoughtful sendoff such as “Fondly,” “Sincerely,” or “Love.”  Finally, a gracious receiver will appreciate the effort and overlook the handwriting or a misplaced comma! The bottom line to a handwritten note, “don’t over think it . . . just do it.”

For me, choosing stationery is a fun and creative part of handwritten correspondence. There are many beautiful and fun options at Crane & Co., and I always find unique and memorable offerings at Iomoi. Each time that I empty a box, I remember to whom I’ve written and dreamily look forward to the next batch of correspondence.

For a little inspiration, here are a few of my favorite notecard sets:

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