Guys,
First, let me thank everyone who has written in, this has been an awesome (translation interesting/scary) experience (so far). I promise I am going to try to everyone’s email as quick as I can. If something is time sensitive don’t hesitate to let me know, I can try and bump it up in line. Keep on writing in, y’all are helping me keep this space fun and interesting.
But some things are too great for me not to put on here…
I was grabbing drinks with a friend last week and the girl next to the booth over was in crisis mode. I heard her shout out, “I am just going to get drunk and invite him”, as she gulped down the rest of her 1/2 priced bottle of wine during a typical “Wine Down Wednesday”. This perked my interest and I had to step in.
I turned around and said, “What will you be inviting this guy to do”? After she got over my initial intrusion, she informed me that her parents were coming in town. She wanted the guy she had been seeing/dating (translation sleeping with) to meet her folks, but she was scared it was to soon. I told her I would be happy to answer her question, but she need to know I actually have a secret identity as a blogger, we swore to keep our identities confidential on the condition I got to share her question on my blog.
Her question was:
“I have been seeing/dating this guy for a month is it OK for me to introduce him to my parents? I think her really wants to.”
Hey Aggressive Allie,
Pump the brakes! By the way you defined this “guy”, I know you are not dating. He is reluctant to even put a title on your relationship, right? Ok, now we have that out of the way. Since he hasn’t put a title on what you two “are”, this is not the way to force him into exclusively dating you. My first rule of thumb, do not bring anyone you are romantically interested to meet your parents unless you are the “I love you” stage.
Anything less is too much too quick once you are out of college and away from home (there are certain circumstances which I talked about last week). Meeting someones folks is a big deal period. When my sister brings home a guy from school I immediately think, “Wow she wants to marry this guy” and I guarantee your parents are thinking the same thing to.
So Allie, my advice to you is wait a second, wait for the DTR (define the relationship) chat, and then let him meet your parents (months down the road).
Watch out guys Jack Lemon is coming to a bar near you…
Hope this helps,
JL
